Loving me

After complaining to my lil sis for weeks about how much I detest the state of my body these days, she sent me the nicest link yesterday. This cool mama posted about her body image after giving birth to her son just 7 months prior and her words sum up so many of my feelings. Except for one part... she has gotten past the hate, and moved right on to love! She even included pics of her cute self - those boobs!! She is gorgeous!!

Society in general (especially the media and Hollywood) tends to skew the image of pregnancy and post-pregnancy. Pregnancy is when thin, beautiful women grow basketball shaped bumps on their fronts, and nine-ten months later produce chubby little angels with golden curls (who never cry, and sleep through the night). 2-3 months later, mum appears, glowing and gushing about her sweet cherub, right back into her pre-preggo skinny jeans.

Except that isn`t what happens at all! And after having NO preggy friends or family around me in my teens and 20s, I was as shocked as can be when I gained almost 20kg during my pregnancy, and although the weight has gone now, my body is now a saggy, celulitey(?) remnant of what it was before.

Veggie mama wrote it perfectly... `Nobody told me that all the muscles in my thighs and butt would lose all tone... I know that my thighs are wobbly and I'm conscious of them squishing and squelching and looking lumpy when I sit down in shorts. And how just above my knee is a little loose halo of flab.`

Oh how I wish I had loved my body more before. In my 20s I was on a constant diet and never cared to show off my skinny-ish legs and waist in form-fitting clothes and swimwear. Isn`t hindsight a wonderful thing?

Living in Japan only intensifies my negative feelings as normal girls here aim for body weight in the 40`s (kilos), doctors place 8-10kg weight gain limits on pregnant ladies, and shops here usually only carry size S and M. Celebs and models here boast about their diets, diet pills and beauty regimes (in comparison to Hollywood celebs who say `Oh I never diet/work out`).

Anyway, back to me. ha.

Thanks to my lovely sis (and also to the words of Veggie mama) I have decided that the only thing left to do is change things myself. Yes it will be hard. I am the sole caregiver of Aiden from morning til late at night 6 days a week. I work (albeit part time), don`t have much money to spend on luxuries like daycare or a gym membership... and worst of all, I really hate running/exercise (especially in the 30degree heat that has enveloped Osaka this summer).

A week ago, Yoshi came home with a gift catalogue he had received; a very Japanese thing probably; instead of giving a thoughtful, handpicked gift, people often give others (during summer/at weddings etc) a catalogue where they can pick their own gift and have it delivered to their door!

Each gift inside this particular catalogue (everything from handbags to jewelry, kids toys to gardening supplies) was worth around 10,000yen (about $120) and flicking through I contemplated some shelving for Aiden`s shoes, a label maker... And then I saw it. A simple, fold-up room-walker (treadmill?).

I ordered it and am waiting for it to arrive. No more excuses. Aiden naps for around an hour (sometimes), and if he doesn`t nap, he is usually asleep by 10pm, so there is time for me to walk for 30-40 minutes every day.  I have also upped my water intake to 2L a day and have stopped eating ice-cream (the probable culprit of my 2-3kg weight gain this summer!)

When the room-walker arrives, I will take `before` measurements (and maybe pics) but don`t plan to post them here unless I really notice some changes in my body (or the way I feel about it).

Here`s to feeling much better about myself in summer clothes (and even in no clothes!!) NEXT summer!!


p.s. I also came across this nice website dedicate to women who feel as blah as me about their post-pregnant selves. There are loads of pics of real mum`s bodies (probably not Japanese mums!) with their stretch marks and sagginess in full glory!

And here is a great article on the LLL website about post-pregnancy body image.

Pics found here and here.


  1. Well I think you're beautiful xx

    1. Thanks. I certainly didnt write the post in hopes of getting feedback like the lovely words you wrote, but instead, just needed an outlet for what I was feeling. It is so hard to explain these kinds of issues to hub, or to Japanese friends who Im sure dont even know what cellulite is! I know Im not fat, and the issue isnt really about losing weight at all, but just to tone up and feel better in my own skin!
      You are beautiful too my darling! Hope life back home is every bit as good as you hoped xx

  2. I feel exactly the same way. I wasn't so keen on my body before but compared to this post baby body it was fantastic. Almost a year after the birth I am still two sizes bigger than I was pre pregnancy with 8-kgs to loose and a seriously dented self image worsened by being unable to find nice clothes in my size in rural Japan. good luck with the treadmill. Your blog is like a little ray of sunshine in blog world.
    Ps, I wear fit flops and I think they have helped a little.

  3. Oh dear lord, don't even get me started..... Obviously you're not hanging out with me (and my butt) enough.
    Btw unrealted but am I the only one that fails these "prove your not a robot" inputs? ^0^

  4. Sorry, I accidentally deleted the above

    Rofl..........you`re not alone !
    3 kids, all delivered by c-section. My tummy looks like a balloon being left in a closet
    for many years and the air has disappeared little by little.
    I started walking twice a week, late when it`s cool.
    I intended to lose weight but I didn`t, instead I just feel very good walking and letting
    my mind travel.
    Never compare yourself to Japanese standards, we will not win..........lol

  5. Thanks everyone! Its nice to know I am not alone in feeling this way! I know from the outside that I don`t really look fat (or flabby even), and when comparing myself to the millions of other women in the world, I am probably neither, but those lovely ladies out there who had babies and noticed a change and can sympathize, thank you!

  6. Oh I'm pleased you could relate to my words, so you don't feel alone! After two babies it's even worse, but I'm determined to tone up and be the best version of me I can be. Plus I'm jealous you live in Japan! I love it there xx

    1. Oh!! Thank you!! I`m so honored you visited my blog and left a comment. Your post was so brave and so beautiful. Thanks for the inspiration!

    2. And p.s. the sunshine coast is also a pretty fabulous place to live! I lived near Coolum beach for 6 months or so (many many moons ago!!). It didn`t rain the whole time I was there. Paradise xx


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